The role is changing. But the story is not over.

The Cost of Getting Here

The gap between
the title and the person.

High-performing executives don't typically struggle with execution. They struggle with the version of themselves that execution left behind, and the question of whether there's another chapter worth writing.

This isn't a crisis. It's a question the work finally made room for.

01 You've built something real, and the people closest to you are still waiting for you to show up fully.

02 You're good at leading teams. You're less sure what to do with the person in the mirror.

03 You've earned the right to coast, and the thought of it makes you quietly uneasy.

04 Success gave you a title. It didn't tell you who you are when the title's gone.

05 The compartments you built to survive are now the walls keeping you from living whole.

06 Your family needed the person. They got the performance.

What clients say

I think their differentiation lies at the crossroads of their professional work together. They get life and the many pulls and pressures most people experience in balancing work, family, spirituality, and identity. That combination is rare and it shows in the work.

Shaun

Working with Chuck has broadened my thoughts and palette for the future. What led me to be sure he was the right coach was at the end of our first conversation he said, "If you want, I can help you. And in a way that honors God and your wife." Every step has done just that. My wife and I are very grateful.

Hawk

Their book and the work together helped provide language for the complexities life has brought my way. Chuck called out my strengths and potential and guided me from stuck places I did not know how to name on my own.

Charity

What sets Chuck and Ashley apart is their ability to make complex interpersonal dynamics feel approachable and manageable. Their coaching and consulting are rooted in both research and real-world experience, making their guidance highly effective.

Jonathan

Start Here

Before we talk,
sit with these questions.

Most people plan carefully for the financial side of a major transition. These workbooks are for everything else. The identity shift. The grief. The relationship recalibration. They take about 20 minutes. That time is rarely wasted.

For Business Owners

Owner Succession Questions

You have spent years building something with your name on it. The financial plan is in place. These questions are for the part nobody scheduled: who you are when the company is someone else's.

Where have you confused what you do with who you are?

Your spouse has lived with the business owner version of you for years. Who do they get to discover on the other side?

Even a good exit involves loss. What are you grieving?

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For Executives & Leaders

The Other Side of the Role

Your board has a succession plan. This workbook is for everything that plan does not cover: the identity shift, the grief, and the question of what comes next for you.

On the other side of this, who are you?

What is still unresolved inside you?

Who else needs to be part of this conversation?

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The Framework

How the work
unfolds.

A six-phase arc built from years of working with leaders navigating identity, relationships, and what comes next.

This isn't a curriculum you consume. It's a map of the territory you'll walk through, adapted to your specific transition, your relationships, and what's at stake for you.

Inventory

Before we build anything, we account for what's already there: the achievements, the costs, the identities you've accumulated, and the ones that no longer fit. Honest accounting, not a highlight reel.

Sessions 1–2

Identity

You are not your title, your track record, or your net worth. This phase separates the role from the person and begins building something you can stand on when the title changes.

Sessions 3–4

Integration

The compartments that helped you execute are now the walls keeping you from living whole. We dismantle them, not recklessly but deliberately, and start connecting what happens at the office to what happens at home.

Sessions 5–6

Relationships

Leadership transitions don't happen in isolation. The people closest to you have been absorbing the cost. This phase addresses the relational debt, the things left unsaid, and the reconnection that's possible when you show up differently at home.

Sessions 7–8

Influence

What changes when the leader changes. We work on how you show up now, not the techniques but the person behind them, and how that carries into your family, your closest relationships, and whoever you choose to influence next.

Sessions 9–10

Legacy

Not the plaque on the wall. The actual shape of what you're leaving. This phase builds toward a clear picture of the next chapter: deliberate, authored, and aligned with what you value.

Sessions 11–12

What a standard engagement looks like

6 Months

2–3 Sessions / Month

2 hr Max Session Length

The framework adapts to your specific transition: succession, role exits, identity shifts, or the accumulating question of whether success is delivering what you thought it would.

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Chuck & Ashley · Cinq Group

About Chuck & Ashley

We've been in the transition.
Not just beside it.

Chuck holds dual master's degrees in Behavioral Science and Organizational Leadership. His graduate research examined how personal and spiritual grounding either holds or erodes when external pressure is sustained. That question turns out to describe a lot of what his clients are navigating.

His coaching work centers on identity transition, the relational cost of high performance, and what it takes to lead a whole life, not just a career. He approaches that work as a published author and as someone who has walked through his own version of it: leadership failures, identity rebuilds, and the gap between a life that looked successful and one that felt true.

Together, Chuck and Ashley co-authored I Used to Be ____, a book about grief, identity, and what it means to become someone after the person you thought you were doesn't fit anymore. It's the kind of book that gets written from lived experience, not from research alone.

Ashley

Ashley holds an MA in Mental Health Counseling and is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate. She brings clinical depth to the relational and family-system dynamics that surface during leadership transitions: the impact on marriages, the emotional weight partners carry, and the conversations that tend to wait too long. In joint couples work, her clinical training and Chuck's coaching framework work in the same direction from different angles.

The Book

Grief is the part
nobody scheduled.

I Used to Be ____ is about what happens when the person you built your identity around, the title, the role, the version of yourself that success required, isn't who you are anymore.

Chuck and Ashley wrote it from inside their own losses: miscarriage, leadership failures, the distance that accumulates when two people build something significant while trying to stay close to each other. It is not a self-help book with a tidy resolution. It is an honest account of how you grieve what was, and how you become someone after.

The readers who connect with it most describe the same thing: it gave language to something they had been carrying for years without being able to name it.

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For Couples

When the transition
comes home with you.

Leadership transitions don't stay at the office. They show up in how you argue about nothing. In the distance that accumulates. You can see it in your spouse. They stopped reaching for you the way they used to. They didn't leave. They just adjusted.

Leadership transitions don't stay contained to the person in transition. They move through the relationship. The spouse who has been holding things together while the work took priority. The distance that looks like busyness but has been accumulating for years. The version of the marriage that still has room to become what both people hoped it would be.

"Couple-to-couple work is different. You're not just getting advice. You're getting two people who understand this from the inside."

This is particularly suited to couples where one partner is in transition, and the relationship has been quietly absorbing the weight of it. Ashley's clinical background and Chuck's advisory framework work together rather than in parallel.

Couples Engagement

Joint Couples Coaching

Structured sessions with Chuck and Ashley working together, designed for couples where one partner is in transition and the relationship has been quietly absorbing the weight. Chuck works the identity and succession terrain. Ashley works the relational and emotional terrain. Both at the same time.

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Who This Is For

The right fit
matters.

This work is specific. Not every leader is ready for it, and not every situation calls for it. The people who get the most from this engagement tend to share a few things in common.

The exiting executive

You've built something significant and you're preparing to hand it off, or already have. The financial plan is solid. The identity question is not.

The high performer questioning the cost

You're still in the role. But the version of yourself you've been running on isn't working the way it used to, and the people at home are noticing before you are.

The business owner at an inflection point

Succession, acquisition, or a decision about what comes next. You need someone who understands the psychological terrain, not just the operational one.

The leader whose marriage is absorbing the weight

Your work has been successful. Your relationship has been patient. You're at the point where that patience is running out, or you've recognized it before it does.

Who this is not for

If you're looking for accountability coaching, goal tracking, or performance optimization, this is not the right engagement. This work is for people ready to look at the whole person, not just the professional.

What readiness looks like

You don't need to have the answers before you call. You need to be willing to sit in honest conversation about what's actually true, not the version you give everyone else.

The role is changing. But the story is not over.

The gap between the title and the person.

Before we talk,sit with these questions.

How the workunfolds.

We've been in the transition.Not just beside it.

Grief is the partnobody scheduled.

When the transitioncomes home with you.

The right fit matters.

This starts withan honest conversation.

The role is changing.
But the story
is not over.